My name is Kim Dobell. I am a wife and a mum to four beautiful children. I live in Pottsville, New South Wales, Australia.
Nothing prepares you for motherhood, and for me, being a mum did not come naturally. I work at it every day.
In this digital age and consumer-driven society you don’t have to look far to be flooded with parenting tips – ‘say this, do that, don’t feed them this, feed them that, and so on,’ - and for me it was exhausting.
Everything just seemed so out of alignment, and as I began exploring more in-depth, I found that the issue of self-worth was at the very core of all this uncertainty, judgment and comparison. Not only for myself but for countless others out there. What is it that we are all trying to achieve and why are we so afraid to be ourselves, when in truth, all that we are right now, in this very moment, is enough?
Through this period of discovery, I uncovered many gems, tools, and strategies to support me to grow into the person I am today. Among them was meditation and mindfulness, which I discovered in early 2013 while looking for a more natural way to manage my well-being and mental health.
I had been suffering from postnatal depression for two years before this point, and with three young children at the time, I had reached a state of desperation. By beginning to practice meditation and mindfulness regularly, I experienced great benefits to my mental health and overall well-being. It was an emotional process, but one that allowed me to explore those parts of myself that I had buried away and to find happiness and contentment in being me. This passion has led me to study an Advanced Certificate in Guiding and Teaching Meditation.
As my motherhood journey continued, I began sharing these beautiful teachings and pockets of wisdom with my children, so they too could know just how amazing they are. As part of that process I felt overcome with a deep sense of purpose that everyone should know this stuff when they are young – and as a result, myndtime was born.
All kids have their difficulties, and when they are at their lowest, we want to shield them from the pain they are feeling. In reality, though, we can't, because on some level, we know they have to learn this for themselves. However, we can give them practical tools and strategies to deal with life when it throws the ordinary things their way. We can empower children to remember who they are and to know their worth.
I’m passionate about providing children with life skills to help them navigate their way through this big beautiful world. I believe self-worth is linked with being able to do things for yourself, and as a mum, I wanted to encourage my children to start taking responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, and actions. I also wanted them to be 100% comfortable about who they are as a person, not measuring their worth on an outside influence, on something mean said by a friend, a parent with their cranky pants on, or something they see on social media.
It breaks my heart to see that mental illness, anxiety and youth suicide in children is on the rise, there is so much pressure to live up to an unrealistic standard and to look a certain way. So many children are experiencing a lack of belief in themselves, and as a result, their self-worth is diminishing at a faster rate than ever before. We need to turn the tide by supporting children to harness their power and stop handing it to others to determine their worth. I see so many children feeling ‘less than’ and ‘not enough,’ and I am determined to make a difference, one mind at a time.
It’s time for children everywhere to learn to take responsibility for their emotions and actions, to have permission to be the best they can be, and to remember just how remarkable they are!